Discussion Forum > Clarifying self-coaching
avrum:
The coach is supposed to be the "you" who has actually achieved the vision you are working towards with the Goal Achievement Method.
The coach is supposed to be the "you" who has actually achieved the vision you are working towards with the Goal Achievement Method.
May 9, 2011 at 15:23 |
Mark Forster
Mark Forster
Thanks Mark!
May 9, 2011 at 16:31 |
avrum
avrum
Curiously this is the part of "Dreams" I had least success with! Perhaps I'm not humble enough to listen to my future self's advice.
I found more advantage in answering good insightful questions in a journal e.g.
What is this time in your life like?
What would achieving X do for you?
As i let go of the lies I tell myself...
The good thing about sharing my mother's/father's view of things is...
What will be different about the way you see yourself if you X?
If I disown the person I once was I would have to let go of...
You might try the NLP SCORE method useful as a potted version.
I found more advantage in answering good insightful questions in a journal e.g.
What is this time in your life like?
What would achieving X do for you?
As i let go of the lies I tell myself...
The good thing about sharing my mother's/father's view of things is...
What will be different about the way you see yourself if you X?
If I disown the person I once was I would have to let go of...
You might try the NLP SCORE method useful as a potted version.
May 9, 2011 at 22:36 |
michael
michael
michael:
If you read the dialogues in the book, you will see that the Future Self never offers advice. His role is limited to asking insightful questions.
If you read the dialogues in the book, you will see that the Future Self never offers advice. His role is limited to asking insightful questions.
May 10, 2011 at 0:47 |
Mark Forster
Mark Forster
<<never offers advice. His role is limited to asking insightful questions.>>
My late supervisor used to say something similar, mainly that, if you ask 2-3 questions that stay with your clients post-session, you've earned your fee.
My late supervisor used to say something similar, mainly that, if you ask 2-3 questions that stay with your clients post-session, you've earned your fee.
May 10, 2011 at 5:03 |
avrum
avrum
Using writing for healing and therapy seems to be a scientifically-proven techniques.
https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/19/writing-your-way-to-happiness/
https://medium.com/@sathyavision2020/emotional-writing-deb11dee9e8b
https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/19/writing-your-way-to-happiness/
https://medium.com/@sathyavision2020/emotional-writing-deb11dee9e8b
January 6, 2018 at 11:00 |
Sathya
Sathya
Friends:
I just finished the first part of my "Mark's Forster Project" and now I'm about to start the Dreams practice.
Yes, as Mark says, your future self only asks insightful questions, buy as the dialogs are THE thing I do almost daily, I noticed two things:
1) I lost sometimes the idea of a "future self". Instead, he (my other self) appears as a kind of general coach or philosopher.
2) Even if he makes a lot of questions, sometimes he gives me an advice. This happens when I'm implementing some specific time management technique and he instructs me how to do it.
Yes, it sounds a bit schizophrenic.
I just finished the first part of my "Mark's Forster Project" and now I'm about to start the Dreams practice.
Yes, as Mark says, your future self only asks insightful questions, buy as the dialogs are THE thing I do almost daily, I noticed two things:
1) I lost sometimes the idea of a "future self". Instead, he (my other self) appears as a kind of general coach or philosopher.
2) Even if he makes a lot of questions, sometimes he gives me an advice. This happens when I'm implementing some specific time management technique and he instructs me how to do it.
Yes, it sounds a bit schizophrenic.
January 6, 2018 at 12:34 |
Pablo
Pablo
If I recall correctly, Mark's dialogue is between his present self, and future self (the future self being Mark who is living the life he is dreaming about).
During our own self-coaching session, is the coach supposed to be our future self? Or am I confusing this with the long-term goal setting exercise.
Thanks.