Discussion Forum > Becoming-Overwhelmed Signals from ADHD coach Jennifer Koretsky
Well, Stever Robbins taught me:
If saying “no” doesn’t work, take a drastic course: Let go. Stop caring. If your environment is demanding too much of you, let go of it. In a choice between sanity and emotional buy-in, choose sanity.
http://www.steverrobbins.com/articles/masteringoverwhelm.htm
If saying “no” doesn’t work, take a drastic course: Let go. Stop caring. If your environment is demanding too much of you, let go of it. In a choice between sanity and emotional buy-in, choose sanity.
http://www.steverrobbins.com/articles/masteringoverwhelm.htm
November 15, 2011 at 15:14 |
Rainer
Rainer
Jen was my coach and supported me in finishing my PhD. She is terrific!
I believe that using ADD-friendly approaches often benefits everyone. For example, i think this is true in teaching. Almost all students prefer to do interactive, engaged learning that involves activities such as games, drama, music, skits, drawing, discussions, etc instead of sitting in a chair in a lecture hall for 3 hours taking notes. (The difference is that the ADDer often is unable to do the latter, whereas the non-ADDer doesn't particularly like it but is able to do it).
So perhaps books aimed at ADDers that contain useful strategies can be really helpful for many othe people, too. (BTW, I find Mark's systems to be ve ADD-friendly.)
I believe that using ADD-friendly approaches often benefits everyone. For example, i think this is true in teaching. Almost all students prefer to do interactive, engaged learning that involves activities such as games, drama, music, skits, drawing, discussions, etc instead of sitting in a chair in a lecture hall for 3 hours taking notes. (The difference is that the ADDer often is unable to do the latter, whereas the non-ADDer doesn't particularly like it but is able to do it).
So perhaps books aimed at ADDers that contain useful strategies can be really helpful for many othe people, too. (BTW, I find Mark's systems to be ve ADD-friendly.)
November 19, 2011 at 15:07 |
silviastraka
silviastraka
Reminds me of a certain class that reported great success in teaching people with learning disabilities. I think autism and ADD and emotional problems fit this approach. The approach was to have a regular classroom but give the students broad freedom to leave their desk, go to the back, and play with a ball, or whatever else. The idea is that people can't think when they get overwhelmed, and it's more effective to dissipate the feelings of tension and then return to the learning.
November 19, 2011 at 15:20 |
Alan Baljeu
Alan Baljeu
ADHD coach Jennifer Koretsky is the author of "Odd One Out" (http://www.addmanagement.com/ ). It is also available at Amazon.com, including as a wireless download.
Borrowing from her discussions, I have come up with the most basic self-queries I could possibly come up with to warn myself if overwhelm is in progress:
• You wake up feeling like you're behind .
• You spend all day trying to "catch up" as new to-do's, pressure, and guilt build up.
• You go to bed feeling even more behind than you were when you woke up.
• Your life is all about your to-do list.
Of course, these are basic and obvious things we want to avoid, things we read about all the time on this forum, or even the reasons that caused us to get interested in MF systems in the first place. However, I like to remind myself of the basics from time-to-time. I have gotten a lot out of Koretsky's book and newsletters, and she has responded to me personally on occasion.