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Sunday
Jun122011

Future Reality

How to Make Your Dreams Come True suggests that once the vision has “taken” it’s sufficient to revise the Present and Future Realities once a week.

Different people will probably come up with different ways of doing this, but at the moment I am finding that it is very powerful to re-type and revise my Future Reality first thing every morning, and to re-type and revise my Present Reality every evening. This seems to provide the impetus to work towards the vision throughout the day. In fact this impetus is strong enough for me to no longer feel the need to ask the question “Is this what I want to be doing?”

My initial version of my Future Reality was written on 27 May. Since then it has expanded, contracted to one sentence and expanded again. Here are the two versions for comparison:

27 May

I am living a very well-ordered life in which the principles of “How To Make Your Dreams Come True” are put fully into practice. I love creating and everything I set my hands to comes to fruition effortlessly. I am extremely healthy and fit. I have a close circle of friends. All this makes me feel alive, full of energy and peaceful.

12 June

I am living a powerful, well-ordered and creative life in which everything gets done when it needs to be done. I’m supported in my work by a tidy and efficient office. The Dreams Manual has been a great success and I am teaching its principles through seminars, teleconferences and the internet, while living entirely by those principles myself. I am extremely fit and full of energy and enjoy long-distance walking, yoga and physical challenges (including passing the 100 push-ups challenge). I run a highly successful blog for ……. and this has resulted in a lot of new members. I speak and read French with fluency. I naturally attract people who share my enthusiasm for living and this is resulting in some amazing friendships. I love the sense of freedom and achievement that all this gives me.

Once I’ve written today’s Present Reality this evening, I’ll post a similar comparison.

Reader Comments (15)

Thanks for posting these, Mark. One of my resistances to the Future Reality exercise is that I could make it go a whole page, because I feel it has to cover my work, my relationship to my wife, my personal projects, my exercise/diet, etc. I feel as if there are SO MANY areas of my life where I want to see improvement, that I feel EVERYTHING has to be included.

Perhaps this is an example of your metaphor of "you can't eat everything on the menu." Perhaps if I climb a little higher up the hill I could find some common themes that would be more suited to the FR exercise. (I have started keeping a separate FR at work, one for each of my big projects, and then one 'bigger' one encompassing attitudes and habits.)

I LOVE the idea of writing the FR in the morning and the CR in the evening. That sounds like a great idea.
June 12, 2011 at 14:17 | Registered CommenterMike Brown
Mike:

I agree Mike. I'm implementing this change today.

Mark:

So crazy - I'm getting excited reading your future vision!
June 12, 2011 at 16:54 | Registered Commenteravrum
Another thing - these (Dreams) exercises bear a resemblance to Jewish morning/evening prayers. Starting your day with a vision/hope, and ending with a reckoning of how the day went. I find that comforting and reinforcing.
June 12, 2011 at 17:10 | Registered Commenteravrum
avrum:

That's interesting. The same applies to Catholic prayer, and I expect Seraphim will tell us that it applies to Othodox prayer as well (that's Orthodox as in Russian and Greek Orthodox, etc).
June 12, 2011 at 19:00 | Registered CommenterMark Forster
Mark:

With respect to your current future vision, do you still hold to the 3-5 year plan?
June 12, 2011 at 22:23 | Registered Commenteravrum
When I'm writing my Future Reality I don't hold any particular time period in mind. But looking at my current vision it would seem to related to that sort of length of time, yes.

What I don't know is whether in 3-5 years time I will write up my Present Reality one evening and it will be exactly the same as my Future Reality.

More likely I think the Future Reality will continue to evolve so it's always ahead of me.
June 13, 2011 at 10:59 | Registered CommenterMark Forster
Mike, what about dividing the reviews into areas?

Some mentors call it the Wheel of Life. Covey calls them roles. They usually list 5-12 areas. I don't know if Mark has somethings similar. As you do your review, focus on each area in turn.

A perfectly-balanced life has a perfectly-balance wheel, but in the short-term it's hardly ever balanced. In the mid- and long-term, over-doing an area is just as un-balancing as short-changing one.

Don't worry about finding the perfect list. As you do the exercise for a few months, you'll see areas that need to be split and ones that can be combined to meet your current life.
June 13, 2011 at 16:06 | Registered CommenterCricket
Hello Mark,

I did not have time to re-read all comments and articles, so I'm sorry if this has already been asked. Are you still doing your daily "What's better?"
June 23, 2011 at 13:35 | Unregistered CommenterLaurent
Laurent:

Yes, currently I add to it throughout the day, but I'm still experimenting with the best times of day to do the various bits of the Dreams methods.
June 23, 2011 at 14:39 | Registered CommenterMark Forster
Just found an article which validates this approach, and wanted to resurrect some "Dreams" posts!

"Developing Discrepancy:
At the same time, the practitioners help clients to develop and recognize the discrepancy between their drinking behaviors and their personally held goals and values. This involves highlighting the gap between "where they are" and "where they actually are" (deploying discrepancy)."

http://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/Social/Module6Motivation&Treatment/Module6.html
July 17, 2012 at 14:06 | Unregistered Commentermichael
Visualization is fine, but there’s a way to visualize what you want without leaving the present moment.  Instead of visualizing the future, visualize a new present moment.  Feel the presence of what you wish to create in the here and now.  Feel its energy in your reality right now, instead of projecting it beyond the present into the future.
July 18, 2012 at 11:59 | Unregistered Commentermichael
NATURAL HYPNOSIS EXERCISE

For 5 or 10 minutes a day at the most, use natural hypnosis as a method of accepting desired new beliefs. During that period concentrate your attention as vividly as possible upon one simple statement. Repeat it over and over while focusing on it for this time ... Do not allow distractions, but if your mind insists upon running about then channel its images in line with your declaration. The repetition, verbally or mentally, is important because it activates biological patterns and reflects them. Do not strain .... During this period ... remember that you are using the present as a moment of power to insert new beliefs and that these will be materialized. When the exercise is finished do not dwell upon it .... Three days at the very least are necessary before you can tell, through results, how effective it has been .... You may experience spectacular results at once. But continue the exercise even if this happens. Inner channels must be repatterened. There will be a feel to this that will serve as your own individual guideline.
July 25, 2012 at 12:50 | Unregistered Commentermichael
...and a contrary view:

"" It is good that life never fulfils your dreams - it always goes on disposing, in a way. It gives you a thousand and one opportunities to be frustrated so that you can understand that expectations are not good and dreams are futile and desires are never fulfilled. Then you drop desiring, you drop dreaming, you drop proposing. Suddenly you are back home and the treasure is there."

Osho"
May 19, 2014 at 14:04 | Unregistered Commentermichael
The Wikipedia article on Osho is a good read, especially for those too young to remember it all going on at the time:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rajneesh
May 19, 2014 at 18:33 | Registered CommenterMark Forster
Visioning a future reality is not just an exercise of holding an uplifting picture in the mind, it’s a very courageous process of unearthing all your deep resistances to that picture.
Usually this means stopping identifying yourself with the ego. The problem is that the ego always regards the future as where all it's sense of lack is fixed.

The brain often wants what the heart doesn't have a desire for. The ego fails to connect itself to a larger flow of life. Step 1 is therefore to reduce the momentum the ego has built up in this unaligned direction, separating heart desires from ego wants. Future reality needs filtering through that process.

It also needs filtering by becoming aware of the resistances to the heart's desires. The future reality will be incomplete until the voice of fear over a future reality has been acknowledged. There will be several consequences to this imagined reality, not all of which will be ok within the unconscious.

There also needs to be leeway in your future reality. The brain may have a poor idea of what is best for you as it projects from past habits and conditioning in an attempt to fix what it sees as lacking. So our grip of future reality must not be too tight - a blueprint more than a final copy.
May 21, 2014 at 11:29 | Unregistered Commentermichael

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